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Things I have learned (often the hard way)

When the divide can't be understood

6/5/2024

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In any environment where groups of people have to work together, be it a community, workplace, or even a community group, sometimes we create a divide that simply can't be understood.

This only happens when 
perceived power and perceived value create a toxic divide. 

Because of the perception of both parties, it becomes so toxic that the divide can't be understood.

Each of the parties, however many there are, can not understand the perception of the other. 

It doesn't matter
​what you say


​"We are listening
"we are on the same team
"we will do better." 
"Thank you for what you do
We need <insert>
Why don't you <insert>
I don't think you care about it

It doesn't matter what you do

​
​"They gave me a $10 voucher the voucher it cost $11.20 - They don't get it.

"Why did they give me only one cookie for my family of 5?
"Why do you think we want lunch when I want lunch with my family?
Don't worry about disagreement - worry about silence
Disagreement is a natural part of human interaction. However, when disagreements are not managed effectively and they are linked to perceived power and perceived value they lead to silence and fear. 

Power 
 When power is unevenly distributed, it can lead to feelings of resentment and unfairness. Those with less power may feel unheard and undervalued, leading to disengagement and decreased motivation.

Value
When value or contributions are not valued or recognised, those who feel like they are not valued withdraw from participating or contributing their ideas and skills.

Conversations are how communities think together.
Using an experienced facilitator who understands perceived power and perceived value is crucial in managing disagreements, balancing power, and ensuring everyone’s contributions are valued. 
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